I've previously mentioned that I'm training myself to be a personal productivity consultant, having become seriously inspired after applying David Allen's Getting Things Done methodology to my life [2]. As an autodidact [3] (because there's no M.S. in Personal Productivity), I'm having to define the field of study for myself. Surprisingly, in addition to the expected subjects (time management, motivation, creativity, etc), my inquiry has expanded quickly to include broader topics like work/career, wealth/money, and personal growth and development. (Thanks again to Steve Pavlina for the great starter list.) And the queen of them all? Networking.
I've written about networking before [4], but after having started Keith Ferrazzi's excellent book Never eat alone: and other secrets to success, one relationship at a time (with Tahl Raz, and found via Ian Ybarra's blog), I've realized that it may be the most important thing I take away from my exploration of GTD, possibly eclipsing the study itself.
Why? Because I'm walking into an unknown area [5], and I know I absolutely must stay open to unexpected opportunities, especially ones that I literally can't imagine. My hope is that, by meeting others, being generous to them, and listening, I'll gain insight into (and help with) defining my path, rather than simply following possibly limited ones I dream up myself. (I'd say more, but Ferrazzi and Raz do it so wonderfully [6].)
Big change! I've discovered a world that, as a programmer, I had no clue existed. I've been living in a 20 year technical cocoon, starting with my first job with NASA, in which I've focused solely on my immediate social environment - my fellow workers, my boss, etc. This has been possible due to the focused nature of the work, and my willingness to be happy with that (frankly) impoverished level of connection with people. However, it is definitely time to change.
How to go about this? A combination of learning and goal setting. First, I'll apply concepts from Never eat alone and How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds or Less by Nicholas Boothman (it's a great little book [7]).
Second, I've decided to take a page from Danny Wallace's book Yes Man and try an experiment - for the next year my goal is to meet three new people every week, and connect with them as significantly as possible. It will take work, and will be a challenge (I've already had to call someone back because I was "all business" the first time around), but it should be a wild ride.
Has anyone else had a networking "aha?" Regardless of whether you have or haven't, and in the spirit of the experiment, I'd love to talk with you - just send me an email. Cheers!
References
- [2]: After starting GTD I've cured my insomnia, lost 15 pounds, started a blog, and fixed a severe back problem. And much more.
- [3]: Thanks to Ami Wright, who introduced me to the word at the Boston GTD | The RoadMap seminar last year.
- [4]: Networking surprises - Some recent unexpected (but successful) outcomes and The most important networking question
- [5]: For a great (and short) book on change, I highly recommend Who Moved My Cheese? An Amazing Way to Deal with Change in Your Work and in Your Life by Spencer Johnson and Kenneth Blanchard.
- [6]: The book is full of great insights, like:
- The more people you help, the more help you'll have and the more help you'll have helping others.
- Autonomy is a life vest made out of sand.
- [The] currency of real networking is not greed but generosity.
- Each of us is now a brand.
- Contribute. It's like Miracle-Gro for networks. Give your time, money, and expertise to your growing community of friends.
- [7]: A review of "How to make people like you in 90 seconds or less"
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> I haven't found LinkedIn
> I haven't found LinkedIn all that helpful, except via the actual
> invitations themselves, which often spark an email exchange with
> long-lost friends and former associates.
Thanks, Joe. I've yet to (audaciously) ask for an invitation...
> What I have found useful is reading others' blogs and posting
> comments ... as a way of reaching out to people in a more meaningful
> way than ... a service like LinkedIn.
Absolutely! I've found that making connections with readers and other bloggers to be fulfilling and entertaining. A real surprise for me, as a newbie blogger myself.
> Two books I would recommend for networking are How Full Is Your
> Bucket? and Hello, My Name is Scott, by Scott Ginsberg.
Thanks, Joe. I liked the first (and your writeup, including identifying the tension between independence and interdependence), and I'll be ordering the second.
> I haven't read the book on how to make people like you, but I have
> an immediate and strong aversion to its title.
I had a similar reaction (I talk more about the book here, where I say The title is somewhat misleading and provocative).
> I think that meeting people with the general goal of what you're
> going to get from them is a setup for failure and disappointment,
Absolutely! The book's actually got a positive perspective on this.
> Er, and if I've misinterpreted the theme of the book, well, then,
> "never mind" :-).
Yep!
Two more ideas for
Two more ideas for networking opportunities: conversation cafes (they don't have any in MA ... but it's [procedurally] easy to start one ... just have to add gumption :-)) and meetups. I think I already mentioned Fast Company's Company of Friends in an earlier comment on another post; the have local chapters as well.
I haven't found LinkedIn all
I haven't found LinkedIn all that helpful, except via the actual invitations themselves, which often spark an email exchange with long-lost friends and former associates.
What I have found useful is reading others' blogs and posting comments (and/or trackbacks, when available) -- when I feel I have something positive to contribute (even when it's simply "great post!") -- as a way of reaching out to people in a more meaningful way than simply establishing a unannotated "link" in a service like LinkedIn.
Two books I would recommend for networking are How Full Is Your Bucket? Positive Strategies for Life and Work, by Tom Rath and Donald Clifton (about which I blogged a bit here), and Hello, My Name is Scott, by Scott Ginsberg (and which I also blogged about here).
I see blogging as a way of constructing a front porch (a philosophy upon which Scott elaborates in his book), and using comments and trackbacks as ways of filling others' buckets (which Tom and Don elaborate on).
I haven't read the book on how to make people like you, but I have an immediate and strong aversion to its title. I think that meeting people with the general goal of what you're going to get from them (e.g., their approval, their admiration, and/or their business) is a setup for failure and disappointment, and I would find it disingenuous to practice such a policy myself. Instead, I always try to focus on what I can give or at least offer another person. That said, I do, on occasion, contact people with a very specific goal in mind (getting advice, feedback, etc.), which I think is different than the more general category of networking.
Er, and if I've misinterpreted the theme of the book, well, then, "never mind" :-).
Thanks a bunch for the
Thanks a bunch for the pointers, Paul. I like your consortium idea, and "The virtual handshake" is now sitting on my desk - it's up next. I'm still learning how to use LinkedIn, and how to help others (of course). I appreciate your point about different levels of connection/help - it's really a matter of trying, I think. You never know when or how one will work out.
Yep. I was a programmer
Yep. I was a programmer working for The Man for several years and, in the past six months, I have been a partner and Technical Director in a small company. I started exploring the professional aspects of my job and I started seriously using LinkedIn.com. For some people I have met with, I honestly don't know if we can help each other. So I start off with a brief history of my company and an overview of our current projects and take it from there. I have also been kicking around the idea of starting a local technical consortium (since no user groups really exist in my area). I recently picked up "The Virtual Handshake" which was co-written by Scott Allen, David's brother, and it is very good so far.
Paul - http://www.screwtheman.com